Not talking about it anymore
We haven’t heard a word.
It’s not unusual that we wouldn’t be in contact – we’re friends that ring each other every couple of months and organise to go out to dinner and catch up. We’re not friends that live in each others pockets.
Nevertheless, I’m taking this whole thing out of the equation (in my mind at least).
I found a local forum to join and find out more, but because I’m so conscious of not wanting to bombard The Butterflies with information, I’m too scared to pass it on.
I think people need to find their own way through this stuff, it’s a personal journey and I think maybe it’s best made without anyone breathing down your neck.
I was thinking that maybe it wouldn’t be easy to ring people up and let them know you’ve decided not to go ahead? I hope not, we’ve made it clear that we have no expectations.
I’m thinking now that we should make an effort to see if we can find another local donor – see if our story will touch anyone who is considering donating. I guess we'd never know unless we tried hey? My instincts are telling me that an anonymous donor is not going to be in the best interests of a future child ... This is huge debate, and not one I'm qualified to lead, but with even the minimum insight we have (the 2-day Adoption Seminar), it seems pretty clear that finding a biological link is the most important thing for an adopted child. Therefore, what reason is there to think that the same wouldn't hold true for a child who was told they were created with a donor egg?
The funny thing is, that the doctor we saw said that 90% of the people she was arranging anonymous donor eggs for, had indicated that they would keep it secret from the child and were not telling any family members.
Anonymous vs known donor eggs aside, Mr. S thinks we should have as many irons in the fire as possible. He says that because people we know that have been at this with dogged determination are all now pregnant.
Meanwhile I still see the new CFG every week – she reckons I’m the healthiest I’ve ever been. She still thinks she can help me conceive naturally! I'm not laughing, but it is a way of passing the time. I even took my temperatures this week - to check that I was ovulating.
I know that Acupuncture and Chinese medicine is something I’ve responded well to – it’s suits me. I always have the most amazing sleeps the next few nights after seeing her.
ZZZZzzzz seeing her tomorrow.