IF and the City

I used to feel sad when I watched the episodes with Charlotte failing over and over again while trying to get pregnant. Little did I know that my own attempts would lead me on the same sad journey. We've now passed 4 years in the trenches. 6 failed IVF/ICSI cycles = nothing. Time for something new - donor eggs. Success at last. Now for round 2.

Friday, February 09, 2007

Infertile Reminder

Yet again I’ve been trampled in the stampede.

It turns out that before the urine has even dried on the pee-stick, a fertile woman will have booked in with her Obstetrician of choice in Sydney.

My first conversation or attempt to book in with someone and organise my nuchal test was a dismal failure.

First question: 'When are you due?' [shocked me - I thought the first question would be 'how far along are you'?]
‘Umm September ... [slightly embarassed] actually I’m only just over 9 weeks pregnant’
TUT ‘ONLY? We’re booked up, let me double check ... yes we’re booked up, most book in to come between 8 and 10 weeks’.


With the waiting time being 4 weeks for an appointment, it would appear that the most eager would make a booking the minute the second pink line has appeared, and the most conservative before they’ve confirmed they even have a heartbeat!

‘But I’ve been seeing my IVF doctor up till now ...’

Second Obstetrician had space – in four weeks – I have to go and sort myself out with my nuchal test and make sure they get the results.

Yet again – another reminder of the difference between THEM and US.

‘Yep that’s what women do in Sydney’ my friend confirmed.
‘But what if they miscarry, they’d then have to go around cancelling all these appointments, I’m only just out of the 1 in 6 level of risk?’
‘Well ... maybe ... if that happens ... they get someone else to cancel for them’

Right, something I didn’t think of.

I feel so stupid, I feel like ringing that first clinic back and telling them that I’m not some negligent idiot, that I’ve been through miscarriage and 6 failed IVF cycles, why would I presume that because I got a positive beta I would need an Obstetrician?

Why the hell doesn’t someone become the Infertile/IVF Specialist Obstetrician and only take women once they’ve had a confirmed heartbeat?


At February 09, 2007 7:50 pm , Anonymous Lori said...

Oh yes, I had this happen too. I even had to argue that I didn't need the blood test to confirm the pregnancy as I'd already had 3 ultrasounds and knew it was twins for goodness sakes! They didn't quite grasp that I hadn't just peed on the stick.
I hope you get your appointments sorted out.

At February 09, 2007 8:04 pm , Blogger three minute palaver said...

Yes, I learnt about making my 1st Ob appointment early after I did it your way (after years of IF) when I was pregnant with my DD and couldn't get an appointment anywhere. I now make all my U/S and Ob appointments rather early and make several appointments at the same time for my Ob, with the idea I will just cancel if things go to shi.t. Goodluck with your nuchal fold scan and hope your Ob is a really lovely one.

At February 09, 2007 8:51 pm , Blogger Lut C. said...

If you think this is bad, wait till you start looking for daycare.
The fertiles joke that you ought to apply before you conceive. Um, yeah, 3+ years ago?
Imagine the daycare centre calling you each time they bump someone ahead of you in the list (I don't know if that's how it works).

At February 10, 2007 5:44 am , Blogger Kris said...

Well before I was infertile--- or rather well before I KNEW I was infertile--- I would have friends who would call everyone they knew the morning of their positive pee stick. That bewildered me then. Now, I'm competely floored by it. Don't these people know what can happen? Oh, wait... THEY live in happy-fertile land. They DON'T know.

At February 12, 2007 10:03 am , Blogger Bumble said...

Yup I've had to phone around cancelling those appointments too. It just goes to show that the "ordinary" world doesn't give a rats ass about us. You'd think they'd try to fit you in considering your circumstances. I hope you find someone nice to look after you!


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