IF and the City

I used to feel sad when I watched the episodes with Charlotte failing over and over again while trying to get pregnant. Little did I know that my own attempts would lead me on the same sad journey. We've now passed 4 years in the trenches. 6 failed IVF/ICSI cycles = nothing. Time for something new - donor eggs. Success at last. Now for round 2.

Tuesday, November 01, 2005

Cup Day

Cup Day is usually one of the most fun in the whole year.

It's a day where people get dressed up, go to work in silly hats, organise office sweepstakes, drink beer, champagne, gamble, have fun.

Even if you're not going to a big lunch, most companies usually organise something and at lunchtime everyone stops working, starts drinking and waits until 3.00pm and watches the race.

Well, we were all taken out for lunch, which would normally be great, except I was sandwiched between the 2 pregnant girls I work with. One is great, no fuss just enjoying what's happening, but not obsessively talking about it. The other, well, what do you call the pregnant pain-in-the-ass?

It doesn't matter what the subject it all ends back at pregnancy.

If the topic drops for 2 minutes then the belly rubbing kicks in, just in case our eyes happened to stray away.

Of course every waiter has to be told that they couldn't possible be late with our orders since a pregnant woman needs her food.
How she can't drink on Cup Day because guess what, she's pregnant!

I used to think that this was all about life's lessons and I should just learn from it, but now it just pisses me off.

I know I can't expect every pregnant woman to understand that there may be IF people around, but is it too much to expect that they might stray off the topic onto something else in the course of a 4 hour lunch?

I have to learn to be tolerant, kind, caring, empathetic because I'm IF - what do women that are pregnant women have to learn?

The frigging ante-classes seem to be an absolute crock at teaching anything but how to bore people with the same bloody anecdotes we've all heard a million times before. Yeah we all know the video of the caesarian section is scary, now shut up!

I tell myself that when my time comes I'm going to be the most unobstrusive pregnant woman in the world. But sometimes I think when it happens I just want to round up all the women that have bored me senseless and do the same to them - because I'm sure they'll be just fascinated to hear it all over again. Except that by then the conversations will be about the potty training ...


At November 02, 2005 11:40 am , Anonymous Lori said...

People like that make me crazy. Not just the pregnant ones (though they're obviously the worst of the bunch!) but people who in general can't stand to have the conversation veer out of their orbit for more than 30 seconds. I met someone like this at a party this weekend and I suspect she'd be one hell of an annoying pregnant woman.
I'm tired of learning all these stupid lessons. It's someone else's turn. Like all those self-centered pregnant women!
Sorry it spoiled what sounds like a fun day.

At November 02, 2005 8:22 pm , Blogger Lut C. said...

Ugh, how horrible.

I'm considering stocking up on birthing horror stories to shut smug fertiles up. I can just see the uneasy shifting and pained grimaces already.

Of course it's totally a bad idea. Socially not done and all. And if I ever do get lucky, they will just want to get back at me. Not to mention that the horror stories I learned will be haunting me at night.

Maybe I should go for horrid tales of new parenthood in stead?

At November 03, 2005 5:17 am , Anonymous thalia said...

I'm all for the rounding them up and boring them senseless route. And even that would be barely adequate punishment in my eyes.

At November 03, 2005 10:28 pm , Anonymous LMR said...

i have just found your comments about DHEA and am interested about finding out more. We have secondary infertility and after having 3 cycles of IUI and 3 cycles of IVF unsuccesfully, and a high FSH have been told things are looking grim due to my age (43) and old eggs! Just last week I found information re DHEA but they are all US sites and haven't been able to find out more info for Australia other than it is a prescription drug here. My specialist doesn't support the idea but my GP is very open to try it, but in the dark about the dosage and where exactly to get it. I bought some today from the chemist over the counter but it's only 3mg (Homoepathic, I think).
Can you help me out?

At November 04, 2005 11:03 am , Blogger Sparkle said...

Your GP can write out a prescription for you - 75mg is the dosage recommended. (Don't think the specialists are into it yet, too early)Some women take it in 25mg capsules during the day (2 morning, 1 afternoon) - I take the full hit in the morning.
Are you in Sydney? I can let you know where I had my prescription filled.
The reason to get it from a chemist is because you need the micronised version it absorbs better. The homeopathic is not good enough - and it's not actually dhea.

At November 04, 2005 8:37 pm , Blogger MC said...

That shits me as well. Out of the 4 pregnant women at work one is an absolute boring, know-it-all. She is incompetent at her job as well. I avoid her at meetings after she sat next to me and kept complaining about her pregnancy. This was around the time of what would have been my due date.

At November 04, 2005 8:38 pm , Blogger MC said...

Just had another thought, we should regale them with stories of injections and needles through our vages for ER and all the rest of the IVF stuff, everytime they tell a birth story.

At November 05, 2005 6:52 pm , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks Sparkle

Yes I am in Sydney, so would love to know where you got your script filled. My GP is going to ring around on Monday to see if she can fnd someone to fill it. In the meantime I have started taking the homeopathic variety, I think something is better than nothing. Can't wait to hear from you!


At November 06, 2005 1:07 am , Blogger Pamplemousse said...

I say just keep on drinking and ignore them. Hope you still had fun anyway.

At November 06, 2005 6:08 pm , Blogger Sparkle said...

I just asked you to email me, but I don't know if you can! Here's the website, they are based lower north shore: www.customisedmedications.com.au

At November 07, 2005 11:33 am , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks Sparkle
Yes would love to chat via email, but not sure how to go about it....Have you any idea


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